Because we have limited spaces per trip, we do have an application and selection process to determine who can join us on each trip. We invite you to submit an application and appreciate the time it will take to answer all the questions. We ask that both partners answer the questions and upload a photo of you together.

After submitting the form and uploading your photo, you will receive an automated confirmation email. We will carefully review your application and invite a certain number of applicants to an interview, which will be conducted virtually.

We’re looking at a variety of factors and will do our best to get to know you to understand whether Togethering might be a good fit for you. If you are accepted on the trip, we will ask you to secure your spot by paying a nonrefundable deposit within a few days.

Here are some tips as you prepare for your online application: 

• Give detailed answers to the questions – the more we know about your background, current situation, and hopes for the future, the easier it is for us to understand whether Togethering is a good fit for you. There are no right or wrong answers – we simply want to get to know you.
• It’s critical that both partners complete the application together. We want to see that your answers reflect both your voices.
• Be honest! We’re not looking for any particular “type” –  Togethering is open to couples of all diverse backgrounds and experiences.

Building friendships with other couples from your local community is core to the magic of Togethering. And the only way to make sure you can keep building your community when you get home is to ensure that all trip participants are full-time residents of the same city (as defined by neighborhood or zip code). Email us at info@togethering.org if you’re unsure whether you live within the catchment area for our trips.

You must be a permanent resident in the city from which the trip departs to ensure you’re available for pre-trip events and preparation. Being a resident of the departure city will also allow you to benefit fully from the community-building opportunities that will be offered after the trip.

Togethering is currently in its second year of the pilot phase and has expanded to new cities. We expect to bring our program to many more cities across the United States in 2026. Sign up for our mailing list to stay updated on future city launches!

Thanks to the generosity of our funders, we are able to offer Togethering experiences for $360 per person – a special gift as you embark on building your lives together. The total value of the trip is approximately $3,700 per person but you will only pay $360 per person.

What’s included in this experience:

• Round-trip group airfare or ground transportation to and from the venue
• High-end hotel accommodations with private rooms for couples
• Group transportation to and from destination airport
• Support from Togethering staff members and facilitators
• All organized activities (including hikes, yoga, and more)
• Engaging content, including exploring Jewish wisdom and practices
• Three delicious meals a day, snacks, and alcohol at dinner
• Post-trip gatherings

What’s not included:

• Travel/cancellation insurance
• Transportation to/from your local airport
• Personal purchases (like souvenirs or extra wellness services)
• Flight upgrades or changes

No catch! We understand that many young couples don’t know where to find entry points into Jewish life or feel uncomfortable in traditional Jewish spaces. If this sounds like you, Togethering is here to help you and your partner figure out your connection to Jewish life and community with no expectations about your religious beliefs or level of involvement with Jewish life.

Our goal is to support you on your journey of figuring this out on your own terms and in community with others navigating a similar pursuit. We invite you to learn, ask questions, take risks, and have fun along the way; we provide the container and the catalyst, and the rest is up to you.

The $360 per person fee is non-refundable. However, if prior to the trip you are facing a personal or medical emergency that prevents your participation, please reach out to the Togethering team so that we can find a solution.

Our trip itinerary will be full, from morning until evening, and will include a rich variety of experiences and programming. You will need to participate fully in the Togethering itinerary, which means attending all organized components of the weekend, but don’t worry – we promise you will also have free time to enjoy your surroundings and relax!

Along with up to 19 other couples from your city, you will be joined by a small team of Togethering staff and facilitators. We stay at unique upscale venues, with beautiful accommodations, natural beauty, excellent food and amenities. The venue name and information will be provided upon acceptance to the program.

Yes, participants are required to fly as part of the group reservation, which was secured at a preferred rate, or, if we offer a trip within drivable distance to the venue, you are required to take the ground transportation we will reserve. If accepted into the program, you will receive specific transportation details for your group, which may include flight and ground transportation to the venue, or just ground transportation, depending on the trip.

We require full participation for the duration of the program. If you have a personal emergency or are asked to leave the trip due to inappropriate conduct, costs associated with leaving early (flight changes, transportation, etc.) will be your sole responsibility.

We will provide you with a detailed list in advance of your trip.

For our Baja trip you will need a valid passport to travel and for the duration of the trip. Please be sure to check the expiration date of your passport as soon as you apply for the Baja trip. If you don’t hold a U.S. passport, you may need a visa or face other entry requirements. You’ll be required to provide us with your passport number and a photocopy before we can issue your flight ticket. For domestic trips you will need a valid, government-approved ID (appropriate for air travel).

We welcome you exactly as you are and have no agenda around conversion or affiliation with any particular form of Judaism. Our facilitators may be a combination of a rabbi and a Jewish educator, or two Jewish educators. Regardless of their title, our facilitators join trips to bring Jewish meaning into the experience, such as looking at nature through a Jewish lens on a hike or celebrating Shabbat (the Jewish Sabbath) together. They are also there to answer questions as they arise. Think of it as your four-day “ask me anything” opportunity.

“Interfaith” doesn't work for everyone, especially when faith isn’t the center of your story. But heritage? Everyone’s got one. Or three. “Mixed-heritage” speaks to the richness of real relationships: layered, dynamic, and complex. That’s who Togethering is for—couples figuring out how Jew-ish life meets everyday life meets every other version of life that makes you, you. The remix. Well-blended. Definitely mixed.

Not at all. Togethering is designed specifically for people who might feel uncomfortable in traditional Jewish spaces. Our approach is exploratory, not prescriptive. We might explore what Shabbat means in a modern context or discuss Jewish values around community, but there's no expectation you'll adopt any practices or beliefs. Think thoughtful conversation with friends, not religious service.

Absolutely not! We designed Togethering specifically with mixed-heritage couples in mind. Non-Jewish partners often tell us they feel more welcomed here than at family Jewish events. We explore questions like "How does Jewish culture fit into our life together?" rather than assuming anyone needs to convert. Your different backgrounds enrich the conversation—they're a strength, not something to "fix."

Togethering is committed to finding ways to accommodate all individuals who are selected for our trips. Please let us know how we can ensure your accessibility needs are met during the application process. In addition, we can accommodate dietary allergies and preferences.

Your health and safety is our top priority. Our team will support you and your partner throughout your illness or injury. If an individual requires medical attention for any reason, Togethering staff will transport individuals to nearby medical facilities, if needed, based on the severity of illness. We can also arrange to bring doctors to the hotel.