Jewish or Love Someone Who Is?

Togethering is open to couples of all cultural, racial, religious, gender, and sexual identities, and you should be committed and/or married life partners, who are starting to build their lives together. To be eligible for a Togethering trip, at least one partner must be Jewish. We think of this broadly, such as having one Jewish parent or grandparent, choosing to be Jewish, and more. Couples should be between the ages of 25-40, and at least one partner must be between 25-40 at the time of the trip. Neither partner must be over 45 years old. If married, couples must be within the first five years of marriage or very close to it. Couples cannot have participated in a Honeymoon Israel (HMI) trip. If you applied to an HMI trip but didn’t travel, you are eligible to apply for Togethering. Finally, all Togethering experiences are based on city-specific cohorts, and you must reside in that city (or have concrete plans to move there in the next three months).

Yes! Togethering is designed for couples like you who are exploring ways you might want to incorporate Jewish life and community into your relationship, family, home, and beyond.

You do not! We look forward to meeting couples who are both Jewish, using a broad interpretation of what it means to be Jewish (see “Are we eligible for Togethering?”). We know that some couples who share different faiths may not feel the term ‘interfaith’ describes them or their family. Identity is multifaceted and complex, and we understand that. Our goal is to curate cohorts that are reflective and inclusive of the great diversity that makes up the modern family.

Absolutely not. All families look different for a variety of reasons, and we think your partnership is enough.

If you are currently pregnant or become pregnant before your Togethering trip, we ask that you include this on your registration or notify us directly. We will also need you to submit a doctor’s note clearing you for travel at least two weeks prior to departure.

Thanks to the generosity of our funders, we are able to offer Togethering experiences for $360 per person – a special gift as you embark on building your lives together. The total value of the trip is approximately $3,100 per person but you will only pay $360 per person.

What’s included in this experience:

• Round-trip group airfare or ground transportation to and from the venue
• High-end hotel accommodations with private rooms for couples
• Group transportation to and from destination airport
• Support from Togethering staff members and facilitators
• All organized activities (including hikes, yoga, and more)
• Engaging content, including exploring Jewish ideas and culture
• Three delicious meals a day, snacks, and alcohol at dinner
• International medical insurance (only for Baja)
• Post-trip gatherings

What’s not included:

• Travel/cancellation insurance
• Transportation to/from your local airport
• Personal purchases (like souvenirs or extra wellness services)
• Flight upgrades or changes

No catch! We understand that many young couples don’t know where to find entry points into Jewish life or feel uncomfortable in traditional Jewish spaces. If this sounds like you, Togethering is here to help you and your partner figure out your connection to Jewish life and community with no expectations about your religious beliefs or level of involvement with Jewish life.

Our goal is to support you on your journey of figuring this out on your own terms and in community with others navigating a similar pursuit. We invite you to learn, ask questions, take risks, and have fun along the way; we provide the container and the catalyst, and the rest is up to you

The $360 per person fee is non-refundable. However, if prior to the trip you are facing a personal or medical emergency that prevents your participation, please reach out to the Togethering team so that we can find a solution

Our trip itinerary will be full, from morning until evening, and will include a rich variety of experiences and programming. You will need to participate fully in the Togethering itinerary, which means attending all organized components of the weekend, but don’t worry – we promise you will also have free time to enjoy your surroundings and relax!

Along with up to 19 other couples from your city, you will be joined by a small team of Togethering staff and facilitators. We will stay at unique upscale venues, with beautiful accommodations, natural beauty, excellent food and amenities. The venue name and information will be provided upon acceptance to the program

Yes, participants are required to fly as part of the group reservation, which was secured at a preferred rate, or, if we offer a trip within drivable distance to the venue, you are required to take the ground transportation we will reserve. If accepted into the program, you will receive specific transportation details for your group, which may include flight and ground transportation to the venue, or just ground transportation, depending on the trip.

We require full participation for the duration of the program. If you have a personal emergency or are asked to leave the trip due to inappropriate conduct, costs associated with leaving early (flight changes, transportation, etc.) will be your sole responsibility.

We will provide you with a detailed list in advance of your trip.

For our Baja trip you will need a valid passport to travel and for the duration of the trip. Please be sure to check the expiration date of your passport as soon as you apply for the Baja trip. If you don’t hold a U.S. passport, you may need a visa or face other entry requirements. You’ll be required to provide us with your passport number and a photocopy before we can issue your flight ticket. For domestic trips you will need a valid, government-approved ID (appropriate for air travel).

No! We welcome you exactly as you are and have no agenda around conversion or affiliation with any particular form of Judaism. Rabbis and Jewish educators join trips to bring Jewish meaning to experiences, such as looking at nature through a Jewish lens on a hike or celebrating Shabbat (the Jewish Sabbath) together. They are also there to answer questions as they arise. Think of it as your four-day “ask me anything” opportunity.

“Interfaith” doesn't work for everyone, especially when faith isn’t the center of your story. But heritage? Everyone’s got one. Or three. “Mixed-heritage” speaks to the richness of real relationships: layered, dynamic, and complex. That’s who Togethering is for—couples figuring out how Jew-ish life meets everyday life meets every other version of life that makes you, you. The remix. Well-blended. Definitely mixed.

Not at all. Togethering is designed specifically for people who might feel uncomfortable in traditional Jewish spaces. Our approach is exploratory, not prescriptive. We might explore what Shabbat means in a modern context or discuss Jewish values around community, but there's no expectation you'll adopt any practices or beliefs. Think thoughtful conversation with friends, not religious service.

Absolutely not! We designed Togethering specifically with mixed-heritage couples in mind. Non-Jewish partners often tell us they feel more welcomed here than at family Jewish events. We explore questions like "How does Jewish culture fit into our life together?" rather than assuming anyone needs to convert. Your different backgrounds enrich the conversation—they're a strength, not something to "fix."

Togethering is committed to finding ways to accommodate all individuals who are selected for our trips. Please let us know how we can ensure your accessibility needs are met during the application process. In addition, we can accommodate dietary allergies and preferences.

Your health and safety is our top priority. Our team will support you and your partner throughout your illness or injury. If an individual requires medical attention for any reason, Togethering staff will transport individuals to nearby medical facilities, if needed, based on the severity of illness. We can also arrange to bring doctors to the hotel.